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Gareth B
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I am devastated.

I took my Staff Benson to the vet yesterday as he had been constapated for a few days thinking it was something he ate and had maybe caused a blockage.

After a second opinion i was assured that he had prostate cancer at a very advanced stage which was stopping him from going to toilet and will cause more serious problems over the next few days.

The words " you have to accept that he has gone, take him home for the weekend with some painkillers to get used to the idea and bring him back on monday" are still playing around in my head.

He is 12 years old and has had a good life, we have been through a lot of ups and downs together but this is probably one of the worst situations i have had to deal with.

I have a 14 year old son who has grown up with him and is also obviously devastated. I still don't know what to tell my 6 year old twin daughters who are very fond of him other than he is very ill. What makes this harder is that other than straining to go to toilet he looks as bright as a button.

Anyway, all I can do is spend this weekend on some nice walks and get some photos etc and hope Monday doesn't come round to quick.

A sad weekend.

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mate, gutted for you... been there myself and mans best friend just dont do it justice!

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you can try to rationalise it with the whole 'he's had a good life' train of thought but it's still losing a member of the family. It happened to me with Chelsea, my last cat. She was off her food so I took her to the vets and he told me she has a week left in her. Hard to put into words just how much it hits you.

Really Sorry to hear about Benson, mate.

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I really feel for you all Gareth.

My dogs are like children to me and it's never easy when they are no longer with you.

Four years ago my best friend Sam became infirm and started failing, it was the longest ride to the vets that Anne and me made that night, we did take comfort in the fact that he made seventeen and a half, so don't forget your mate Benson is 84 years old and I'm sure has had a very good life with you all.

Les & Anne :group-cuddles:

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Im sorry mate, I know how you feel when my Gernam shepard got hip displasia and could'nt walk i had to have her put down and it tore me apart i was off work for a week and swore i would never have another dog so id never go through that again.

But then i rescued a English springer spaniel and then got a puppy English springer spaniel.

I'll never forget Sammy (German shepard) but i love my other dogs just as much.

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I'm so sorry to hear that, Gareth. Sounds like he has had a great life in a family where he is much loved but I know that doesn't really help at the moment. Thinking of you all.

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I'm really sorry to hear about Benson - it must be really hard for you right now.

Our black labrador, Kim, had to be put down about 4 years ago - one day she just collapsed, so Mum rushed her to the vets but the vet said there was nothing he could do - she was getting on (she was 14 at the time) and she was in a lot of pain.

One day I got home from work, walked past Kims basket, didnt realise she wasnt there - until my Mum started to cry and said Kim was gone....

My immediate reaction was to ask where (yeah silly when I look back!) and Mum said the vet had put her down - to which I shouted "Why did he do that - thats my dog!"..... I cried for ages - so did Mum.

I had grew up with Kim - Dad got her when I was 5 and I was gutted when she died. But I look back and think that it was for the best - she was old and suffering - Dad buried her in the garden and Mum planted some flowers around her and we made a cross and had a little ceremony to say goodbye - it really helped!

It'll be hard with your kids, but just be honest with them - he's old and poorly and without the drugs he will be in too much pain.

Have fun with him this weekend - take photos and just enjoy yourselves. And when Monday comes - it'll be hard, but deep down, you know its the right thing to do.

I still think of Kim - she's still alive in my memories - and Benson will always be there in yours.

I'll be thinking of you on Monday

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No words will make how you are feeling any better :(

I just hope you have a nice weekend full of things to give you great memories, and take loads of pics. I regret not taking loads of pics of my cat before she passed away.

Will be thinking of you and the family on monday xx

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sorry to hear that dude, that really sucks big style...... i hate it when dogs go..... it doesnt help with them being so affectionate towards you. all of my dogs have been burried in my field, along with the cat, canaries,!! MY LITTLE CHICKEN GOLDIE who i grew up with and played with every day from age 5 to about ten... two horses and a donkey. ive got a nice little corner for them all thats always kept nice.

steve... do you want another springer??? its bloddy mad, when we got it at 6weeks old the breeder told us it'd be mad for a couple of years then calm down.

its ten now.

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Gutted for you mate, really am.

been there before and I was devastated.

Make the most of the weekend and buy him a big juicy bone and a beer for yourself :(

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i feel for you mate i really do,been there myself very recently.

our dog patch was 15 he was abit off just after xmas so we took him to

the vets,expecting tablets but was told it was the begining of the end,

this was on a monday i cryed alot we lost him on the friday.

how my life was turned upside down.he is buried in the garden with his best mate

snoopy my old dog.i look after where they lie together and grow nice herbs on them.

make the most of your week-end with him but even when hes gone he'll be forever with you in your heart.

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Gutted for you mate...

Had to go through the same with one of our cats when I was younger.

She'd be with the family since before I was born, and had to be put down when I was about 10. She got to 18 years.

It'll be difficult - it always is.

As said above. Spoil him rotten this weekend.

Will keep you and the famiyl in my thoughts Monday matey.

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Very sorry to hear that fella!!!!

I know how you feel as we were told that our Syberian wolf hound was on his last legs (literally) as part of his spine has collapsed an every now and again he loses the controll of the back half of his body...

we were sure it was up but a constant dose of anti inflamitorysd and he is ok.. as soon as he start suffering we'll have to have him put down :(

You get scarily attatched to pets...

Blimey I was devestated when my stingray died!

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All my life we have had cats in the family, but I shall never forget my favourite, Sam. A Tabby-Point Siamese.... I will never forget the day that my parents had him put down without telling me.... I was devastated... I never even got to say goodbye... they thought it was for the best.

Be honest with the kids, it hurts, but at least they can say goodbye.

My heart goes out to you hon.

*hugs

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I told the children last night they were very upset, when I got up this morning they were both asleep in Bensons bed with him, I was choked.

The hardest thing at the moment is dealing with all the questions from my daughters like why, and is the other dog going to get it etc

i have always dreaded the day this would come and new i would have difficulties dealing with it but I never realised it would be this hard. Sorry to go on but it helps to talk about it.

We have all been out walking the dogs all day and have had a good day out with lots of pics and video.

Tomorrow is going to be very difficult.

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Yes it will be difficult but I'm glad you've told your kids. Best to be honest as JJ said.

Keep strong mate, for the kids, yeah? We're all thinking about you all.

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